Yes! I very deeply believe that the pragmatic perspective makes sense and that communication as a pattern of interaction could help people communicate better. Now, I must also say that I believe that fixing problems like those of George and Martha and our book can not solely be fixed by using this process. I believe that thought this perspective can not stand alone; it could be the beginning of a healthy communication pattern between people.
Human nature is to jump right in and “fix the problem” without thinking of the root or the basis. One could have the best argument of the world, or the most intense feelings that need to be expressed, but, if the issue is not communicated correctly, there is no purpose of saying it because it would do no good to either. Communication is definitely a game. People need to be strategic and find the best way to get ones point across in the most effective manner. Just like any game, rules are needed and more importantly turns need to be established in order for there not to be chaos. We forget how important correct communication is. We take it for granted and just do it without thinking, but just like in a game, one party needs to go first, then the next one and so forth. Rules of the game are no interrupting, you wait until its your turn, no cheating. The steps are, for example, first what is the issue as you see it, how do you feel about it, and what could be done to correct it.
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Mia, I thought your post was rather thought provoking! The pragmatic perspective isn't my favorite model of communication but your thoughts on it definitely gave me some clarification and a deeper appreciation for it. I really liked how you pointed out the need for strategy when presenting an argument or idea. I completely agree with you that in order to be effective you must plan ahead and pick precise language. I think you're right in that we need to take more time to solve problems and think out our communication before we blindly jump in and try to create a quick fix.
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Initially, I disagreed with the pragmatic view however your blog helped me understand the way patterns can help correct communication. If communication is subjective, in the sense where there is no method to the madness, then there is no way of understanding communication. By taking a look at the big picture or “pattern,” we can dissect the errors in the way we can communicate and improve overall communication.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the idea that communication is a game. There are participants and rules. In addition, games are not always competitive and are made for fun. With that said, communication can be said to be a game. I like the idea of interpretation being the rules. I guess that would make noise the obstacles or challenges in the game.